Jade Garcia - Week 7

Giving Life and Life Giving

Motherhood is not meant for everyone. Birth is something I would say is one of the hardest things women can do because they are literally putting their life at risk to create life. Although women have the ability to create life, not all women are suited to be mothers. In Professor's Valverde piece she writes, "It is like a dream I once had. I was dying, and my mother was by my side. I asked her with a deep sadness, “Why did you not love me or never were a real mother to me?” She answered, “It is because I am not your real mother. My sister is your real mother.” She was referring to the aunt I re-membered who always treated me lovingly. With that explanation I felt the skies open up, and I could make sense of the world. A weight was lifted, and I then understood, “But of course, you were never my mother, that is why.." (Valverde) Looking at mother daughter relationships something I understood from Valverde Article was that although the mother that gives us birth is consider our mother, It doesn't mean they act or treat you like a daughter. In a spiritual way we can connect to others that make us feel more and better than the people we are related to by blood. Growing up I always felt that I didn't have a mother although she was around. I always felt like my sister was my mother even until this day. My mom never treated me like I was her nor I remember her being a part of my life growing up. My sister did everything for me that I would say a mother does for their child. So when reading the piece professor Valverde about her relationship with her mother I related to it. I believe it's important to acknowledge our relationships with those related to us early on because it later affects us as we get older. The feeling of my own mother acting l like I was non existent still affects me now that I'm an adult.